Wanting to scream at everyone in the house is an all too familiar feeling for so many parents.
We have all been there – all too often, unfortunately - and it is one of the hardest things to accept when you are struggling. Wanting to scream at everyone is all too familiar for so many parents and though we know losing our temper is bad, sometimes it is exactly what you need to do.
However, there are other ways you can manage your emotions and, hopefully, stop yourself saying something you’ll regret.
Either way, there must be a time when you let out the pain and frustration you are feeling so here, we help alleviate the nightmare that it is.
Accept feelings – There is so much pent up anger, frustration and emotions in every one of us. We can feel tired, exhausted, angry, depressed and anxious without the world ever really noticing as it just keeps moving. As a parent, managing these feelings is hard as you need to be a good parent but at times it is so overwhelming. That is normal though and you need to accept the feelings and find ways to manage your frustrations or anger. Before you say something, you’ll regret or continue on a downward spiral which isn’t good for anyone as you’ll withdraw and isolate yourself then.
Talk and talk – Ok, it may be said time and time again but talking to someone you trust will help. The anxiety, the worry and the feelings that you are experiencing can be helped by opening up to someone. We often find ourselves running from the truth, but the reality is, we need to mind our mental health and look after ourselves sometimes. If you are feeling sad, anger and loneliness, you obviously need to talk to someone and without judgement so speak to a person who you know will support you and offer guidance.
Take a break – It doesn’t have to be a holiday, it doesn’t have to be a weekend away (but if it is – all the better) but you do need to take a break from the madness of your family. Go and spend an afternoon at the spa, meet up with friends for lunch, get a babysitter and go out with your partner or get someone to take the kids so you can stay home and do nothing. Do what you need and don’t feel guilty for taking the time to rest yourself as it is needed. Call it recalibration. The human brain is an extremely complex organ and it needs rest, but proper rest and it needs an opportunity to get better and be better.
Keep making time for you – The one-off occasion can’t just be a “one off” as to keep yourself in good shape you need to mind yourself and take regular time for you. This could be a weekly class/hobby or a daily evening walk. Whatever works for you but ensure it is made a priority so these utterly devastating feelings of frustration can go away and stay away.
Ask for help – Look at why you are frustrated. Is it your family? Is it their lack of care or thought? Do they help you? If you see an issue you need to speak up and don’t assume people should know. Take this opportunity to change your ways and ask for help be it for chores, cooking or childcare. Just ask!
Always seek expert advice if your feelings continue too and as above, ask for help/support.
Emma Hayes is a thirty-something mum of two girls aged 16 and 10, planting her right into the teenage and tween-age years! Follow her on Twitter at @EmmaHayes25.