Some good advice on parenting through a seperation

It's a difficult time for everyone but can be made easier with a little help

When you and your former partner are separating it can be difficult on you but also on your kids. Considering the impact, it is going to have on you and your kids it is understandable you may find it hard to come to terms with, but you must to help your kids. Being a good parent is hard enough with a co-pilot, but co-parenting is going to take some getting used to and here we have a few tips on being a super parent while going through the difficulties of a divorce.
  • Keep your kiddie busy- If your kids are busy doing their normal activities they will find it harder to worry about what is going on at home. It shouldn’t be for them to worry about it anyway and no parent wants their kiddies fretting over their divorce. Kids should be kids after all. 
  • Surround your kids with loved ones- Surrounding your kids with loved ones is a great way to remind them that though their parents are divorcing that they are still very much a part of a family. Nothing should change and being around their family’s will keep your nipper happy. However, be mindful of any relatives who may say something to your kids about your divorce and ask them to be careful of their words. 
  • Be polite to your ex-partner- Like them or not your ex is going to be a big part of your life for the rest of your life as you are linked by those little kids that fill your heart. Keeping up a good relationship is vital and though you may not be best friends anytime soon you should try and be in the same room as one another. 
  • Keep a routine- Try and keep your kiddie’s routine as normal as possible. If they get up at a certain time do that and if they are with their other parent in their house you should ask your ex that they keep the routine to the best of their ability. This way your child won’t be confused by different schedules and be more secure in themselves. 
  • Talk to your kids but listen too- Keep your door open and be there for your youngster. They may feel sad or they may even blame themselves for your divorce. Having a chat is a good way to keep the lines of communication open. 
  • Work together- Sit down with your child and ask them what they need you to do. Work on it and be receptive to doing what they feel is best for themselves. Of course, you can’t let them rule the roost, but they may think up and idea to make everything easier like seeing their other parent on a certain day because they always did a certain activity together. 
  • Learn as you go- It won’t be easy, but you will get it together and be kind to yourself too. You may feel guilty about the situation, but don’t as this is no one’s fault. Things happen, and you must deal with it but take care of your kids and ensure they are not overly affected by this hard situation. 
Good luck. 
Written by Emma Hayes, staff writer at Family Friendly HQ

Emma Hayes

Emma Hayes is a busy mum to two girls aged 17 and 11 and is married to her childhood sweetheart.

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