How to deal with your kids being angry or aggressive

It can happen for a number of reasons 

Sometimes through no fault of your own your kid can become angry or aggressive. There usually is a simple answer to why your child is suddenly acting out and there are ways to manage their aggression too.
Here are some tips on how best to deal with aggression and how to prevent it from becoming a huge problem in your lives.
  • Look for reasons why- In some cases a child will have become aggressive because someone or something however trivial has upset them.
  • Have they been the victim of bullying in school? Has someone hurt them verbally or is your child dealing with some problems and is not able to manage their feelings. Once you find out the reason why it will make solving the issue a lot easier.
  • Consider the triggers- Are there triggers to when your child becomes aggressive? Is it because someone says something they do not agree with? Is it because you said “no” and they are not getting their own way or simply because they are frustrated? 
  • Take your child from the situation- If your child is becoming angry or aggressive in a certain situation you probably need to take them away from it for the time being until your child can learn to handle the problem they are having better. 
  • Talk calmly to your child- One thing to remind yourself in the face of an irate child is that shouting or becoming angry yourself will not help the problem. In fact, it will probably encourage this kind of behaviour more. Speaking calmly to your child is the advised method along with walking to distract your kid or going into another room. 
  • Teach your kid problem solving techniques and how to manage their emotions- If your child is becoming frustrated or frazzled and therefore acting up as a result you need to step in and teach them how to manage their emotions and how to problem solve themselves. If they are unable to do something tell them to ask for help, guidance and hopefully they will learn. If someone is upsetting them they should seek help from an adult and walk away from a person who is annoying them. 
  • Co-ordinate with your kid’s other caregivers- Speak to everyone that is involved in your child’s life so that you are all on the same page in regard to your handling of your kiddie’s aggression. Plan for the days you aren’t with your kid and ask caregivers to keep a watchful eye on your nipper, explain to them about triggers and anything that you think helps your child. Be open to taking their opinions into account as they too are a part of your kid’s life. 
  • Remember you are not failing at parenting- You are not failing at parenting if your kid is being rude or moody. All children go through bouts of issues and this is one you will get over in time. 
  • Work on it and if it continues consider talk to your doctor- Consider seeing your doctor if you see no improvement in your child’s behaviour and continue to work on it and manage your child’s aggression. 


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