Katie Price receives backlash for putting her son into care
Former glamour model and Loose Women presenter, Katie Price is also mum to 16-year-old Harvey, who has a number of disabilities. Speaking to Ruth Langsford and Eamonn Holmes on This Morning recently, Katie said that Harvey is now becoming difficult for her to handle because of his size.
Eamonn commented on how much Harvey has grown recently, with Katie adding: "He’s six foot two, 24 stone and still growing."
“I only show him (on social media) when he’s good and, carers out there will understand, he’s got this side to him, his challenging behaviour, he’s got autism, Prader-Willi syndrome, my house is smashed to bits, he’s gone through eight iPads this year, four TVs If someone slams the door [he lashes out] and that’s it."
She continued: "People don’t understand the situation with Harvey, he wouldn’t go to school because I said I was going to work and he wanted to come with me. So he wouldn’t go to school because he’s kicked off, it’s so hard now. Even at night time, he’s like a newborn. He goes in the kids' rooms and wakes them up."
Katie, who has four other children, said the decision for him to board at his school from Monday to Friday has been a difficult one to make.
"I love him so much, he’s my absolute life but he’s hard work now," she said.
"It’s taken me ages for me to be convinced it’s the best place, if he kicks off at school, he’s already at school."
She added that her younger children, five-year-old Jett and four-year-old Bunny, get scared of him sometimes.
"When he triggers off, because he’s so big he makes a big impact," she said.
Although Harvey, whose dad is footballer Dwight Yorke, feels remorse for his outbursts afterwards, Katie added: "When he’s in that rage, he’s in that rage."
She said it has “got to the point now” where she feels she has no choice but to put him in residential care at his school, from Monday to Friday, but that it took her a long time to come to that decision.
A difficult decision made harder as she has received backlash from people who think she has made the wrong decision.
“Now, because I went on a show the other day and I said about the residential care, some people are saying ‘oh, you’re out of order, why are you putting him in residential care?
“I hear these comments and I know I shouldn’t read them, they’re like, ‘what are you on about? You’ve got carers, you go on holiday, this and that’. Yes, I’ve got a life, but I’m with him all the time.
“I haven’t got carers for him at all, I do it myself, one to one.”
When, I wonder, will all of the mum shaming stop? A heart-breaking decision for a mum to get to a point where unfortunately she has exhausted all options and can’t look after him anymore 24/7.
Evidentially she has done her very best to always be Harvey’s carer but it has gotten to a stage where he is becoming a threat to her, his siblings and ultimately himself.
We never know what goes on behind closed doors. Regardless of circumstance or social stance or any other label, mums are doing their best.
We may not agree with every parenting choice another mother makes and, at times, it may be completely different to the choice we would make, but how have we let it happen that some parents feel they have the right to give hate to another parent.
Support and more support is what we should be giving mums and dads.
The programme’s agony aunt, Deidre Sanders, kindly reached out to Katie, and said “I so admire you for what you’ve been doing, it’s one thing caring for somebody frail, but you’re caring for someone who is a very big chap now, and it’s great that you can calm him down. But he probably does need different boundaries now, and people have got the structure in place.”
Harvey is blind and has autism as well as Prader-Willi syndrome, a rare genetic condition that causes a wide range of physical symptoms, learning difficulties and behavioural problems, according to the NHS.
Let us remember to build each other up and that each mum is trying her very best.
Laura Doyle, mum of 4. Kyle 9, Noa Belle 4, Briar 2 and Milla 12 months. Breastfeeder, co-sleeper, coffee drinker. Staying positive and inspired by the chaos of it all. Follow her on Instagram.