Words have weight. While some of the things we say and how we say them are fun and light-hearted, others are heavy, full of meaning, have significance, and either easily understood or mightily perplexing.
Imagine being a child and trying to make sense of what the adults around them are saying. Now, imagine how those words impact how you feel about yourself. Building confidence isn't easy.
What we say and the body language we use when speaking can either build our kids up or knock them down. Knowing how to speak to our kids and how it will impact them is incredibly important.
Building our children’s confidence can be done not only with our actions, but also our words, and when we reiterate positive and meaningful words to our children, those words and ideas can positively influence our children’s confidence, strength, and internal voices.
We can show our kids that we believe in them, love them, and help them to feel supported and encouraged by using positive and kind phrases, words, and ideas. In this way, we can heighten their resilience as they move into adolescence and adulthood and face the many challenges of life they are likely to encounter.
Building confidence through our own unique ways is not only effective but also very easy to do. Sprinkling positivity directly related to our children’s personalities and characteristics on a daily basis can have a powerful effect on our kids.
Here are twenty-five of our favourite things to say to our kids to help boost their confidence, empower them, and enhance their self-esteem.
- I believe in you.
- I know you did your best.
- Thank you for trying.
- You have great ideas.
- You are important.
- Don’t be afraid to be you.
- Being curious is good.
- None of us are perfect. You are worth it.
- You make me proud.
- You are helpful.
- You can do hard things.
- How can you challenge yourself today?
- It’s okay because we all make mistakes. We learn from our mistakes.
- There is no need to compare yourself to someone else.
- That was really brave.
- You can say no. You have a choice.
- It’s ok to be scared.
- You’ve got this.
- How can I help?
- Let’s try it together.
- That’s a great question.
- Don’t give up. You can always try again when you’re ready.
- I believe you.
- You are a great friend.
- I love you and I love being your Mum.