It’s not your job to diagnose your partner or even help treat them but it is important for you to help them to realise they may need some help
Life is busy. Sometimes a week can go by and we might realise that we haven’t actually properly talked to our partner all week. You may chat and talk about the basics, but we mean really talking.
Perhaps we didn't find out how their day or week had been for them or how they were feeling.
If they had a broken bone we would be more inclined to ask how it is
healing, yet when it comes to mental health we often forget to check
If your partner is acting differently, withdrawn, distracted or even
irritable they may be suffering with anxiety, depression or a different
mental health concern.
It’s not your job to diagnose your partner or even help treat them but it is
important for you to help them to realise they may need some help.
If they do need some help, a little reassurance that you are
there will mean everything to them.
Here are some signs to look out for
Some therapists describe anger as “depression with enthusiasm”. If
your partner is lashing out lately or angry with every driver on the
road they may be suffering with depression. A sign of depression is
being easily irritated or that everyone and every situation annoys
Changes In Sleep
After a long days work its normal to be tired. But, if your partner is
going to bed much earlier every night all of a sudden or if they are
not sleeping at all it may be a sign of something else going on.
Change In Sex Drive
Suffering with a mental health problem can be exhausting. It can
also diminish your self-esteem and your partner may not feel the want to
be intimate. Nobody is feeling ‘in the mood’ all of the time but if this
is out of character or going on longer than usual it may be a sign of
something more serious. If this is the case, don’t take it personally but maybe suggest they should see their GP.
We all forget things from time to time. But if your partner has gone
from organized and prepared to forgetting to pick the kids up on
time, not being on top of their work and quite blasé about ithings it could
also be pointing towards a possible depression.
Another big red flag is if your partner starts to stop caring about their
personal hygiene. They might stop showering regularly, neglect washing their clothes or avoiding a hair cut.
Remember you are not a doctor, it’s not your job to diagnose your
partner. But if you see some signs and feel in your gut something is
not right you could encourage your partner to see a professional.