It may have a significant impact on your child but you can make things a little easier for them
According to Deccan Chronicle psychologist from the city, Dr. Diana Monteiro, said that it depends on the parents in how their child gets affected. If parents handle it well, the effects on their psyche can be minimal. “Generally, a difficult married life leads to a divorce, and witnessing the parents go through such stages and then suffer through a divorce in which the child cannot do anything, leaves a mark on their minds for a long time” said the Doctor.
- Be honest- Your child needs to have you and their other parent sit them down for an honest chat about the separation. It is best to be honest and truthful reminding your child that while there will be changes that you and your partner are committed to you and will be there.
- Explain to your child in an age appropriate manner- Your child need explanations but you need to do so in an age appropriate manner. Consider what you child understands and how much information they need. Avoid getting pulled into arguments with your partner and avoid blaming. It will not help anyone.
- Don’t be negative about your partner- Even if your partner is in the wrong your child doesn’t need to know the ins and outs of it. Right now, it is imperative that you protect your child and allow them to get used to the situation without any mud-slinging.
- Keep your kiddies busy- Once you and your partner have decided to separate you should try and keep your child busy to distract them from the break-up. Continuing their normal routine is vital for your child to remain normal.
- Be happy and encourage your child to look to the future- It is hard when parents separate but it doesn’t have to mean your child won’t be happy again. With good parents your child will be able to live a normal and happy life, if you do the right things now.