It is lonely and isolating especially if your baby is unsettled and if you are recovering from a difficult birth
See friends regularly- It may be difficult with a baby but ask your friends to visit you at home if it suits better and don’t worry if your baby is due a feed or is unsettled as babies are babies and you shouldn’t lock yourself away in fear of having someone over while the youngster cries. Alternatively go out for a coffee at a time when your baby predominately sleeps and relax with your pal for a chat.
Ask family for help- As mentioned above it isn’t always the case that you have family members in your area willing to help but if you do have them around ask them for help. For family who live further away invite them over and ask them to mind your baby while you go out or do some chores. Family usually are delighted to spend time with grandchildren or nieces etc.
Use online chat forums- The internet allows you to chat to people online anonymously and this is a great way to get some advice or help when you feel you can not divulge to anyone else. Social media also gives you an outlet to chat to friends and family while keeping them updated on your little one.
Get out and be active- Sitting around the house is not advisable when you have had a baby as a little exercise is great for you and the fresh air is good for your baby too. No one is suggesting you run a marathon but getting out into the world should benefit you both and give you some much needed headspace.
Look to the future- A baby is only tiny for a short while and the time will pass fast making way for the toddler years when all you will be doing is going to the park or swimming. Nights out may be rare but even if it is only once a month it is something to look forward to. Things will get easier and you are doing a great job.