Here are a few tips so you can help your child adjust to the idea of having a sibling when they don’t want one at all.
Think about the sex of your unborn child- Some say that finding out the sex of your unborn baby helps your child bond with him/her and allows them time to adjust. Others dismiss this and believe the surprise will be better for your child but it is up to you what way you play this out and do what you think is best.
Don’t over talk the issue- You are pregnant but your toddler couldn’t really care less now or at least until he meets his sibling and you shouldn’t over talk about it or your child may feel side-lined. Discuss it when your child wants to and take guidance from them, they still might dismiss the thoughts of been a big brother but in time this will change.
Make time for your kid- Spend time with your kiddie regularly to build your bond even more and consider taking some time off for your child pre-baby and not just for maternity leave if you can. Some kiddies can get the idea that mammy took time off for the new baby but never for them which isn’t true but kids are a little silly like that.
Ask family to help- When your baby does arrive ask family to help mind your new-born so you can still mammy your kiddie and give him some one on one attention. Ask family or friends to make a fuss of your older child rather than your new baby and avoid standing in the street letting people coo over your baby with your youngster looking on. Your child is small and it can be scary watching people stand over them looking at the baby and ignoring them without realising.
Find a hobby together and do it religiously- Pre-baby find something you both love to do each week or fortnight and do it without fail to keep your interest growing. At least if you are busy with the new baby and a little distracted your child will know this is something special between you and him.