Baby Showers: Is It Only OK To Have One In Your Lifetime?

A baby shower is also a lovely way to acknowledge this new little person that is going to be coming into the world. 

I, for one, love a baby shower. I love everything about them. The preparation for a baby can be hard work and those last few weeks of pregnancy can feel like an eternity.
So, what better way to raise the spirits and catch up with all your nearest and dearest than to have a baby shower. After 30+ weeks of pregnancy, any mum certainly deserves a bit of TLC and to be the centre of attention for an afternoon.
A baby shower is also a lovely way to acknowledge this new little person that is going to be coming into the world. Whether it is your first baby or your fourth, it is still a brand new little person and a huge adjustment for the expectant mum.
A baby shower also shows Mum that she is not alone in this. All of these people here love and care about you and this baby. Again, whether this baby is your first or fourth it is just as scary. So, the solidarity and support a get together can bring is reassuring for any hormonal mum to be. Believe me!
But some don’t agree. Kim Kardashian and husband Kanye West are expecting baby number four (via surrogate) in the coming weeks. Kim told E! Newsthat she is planning to have a "zen" CBD-themed baby shower. There will apparently be crystals and a tea ceremony.

The internet being the internet, exploded with people’s opinions. Most not happy at the thought of a CBD baby shower in the first place. Another very common refrain, of course, was people scoffing about the idea of a fourth baby shower at all.

Twitter users came out in the hundreds to disagree with the thought of a fourth baby shower.

“It’s her 4TH baby!! Really a shower?!”

“Why is she even having one? It's her 4th kid....”

“It’s her 4TH baby!! Really a shower?!”
The idea, it seems, is that a pregnant woman is allotted one baby shower per lifetime. After pregnancy and baby number one, people become a little reluctant to want to celebrate it again. We've been there, we've done that, and apparently, there's no reason to do that again.

But as I said, I highly disagree. It’s a party, and nobody is forcing you to go!
It’s an excuse to see your mum friends and some family, drink mimosas and eat some cake. (There’s always cake!)

But why does it seem to be another stick to bash mums with? There's no solid consensus as to the "appropriate" amount of baby showers.
Different people have different traditions and different thoughts on the subject. If your thoughts and traditions line up with "one shower only," fine. You stick to that but for goodness sake, let's let other mums have there’s! Judgement free.

Laura Doyle, Mum of 4. Kyle 9, Noa Belle 4, Briar 2 and Milla 12 months. Breastfeeder, co-sleeper, coffee drinker. Staying positive and inspired by the chaos of it all. Follow her on Instagram.


Laura Doyle

Mum of four, Gentle parent living on coffee and trying always to stay positive and motivate in the midst of the madness.

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