The Importance Of Spending Time Apart

I would spend every second of my day with my husband. As cheesy as it sounds, he is my best friend and I love being around him. 

But is it healthy - vital even, to spend time apart? Experts say yes and I have to agree.  Spending time apart is not a sign that your relationship is struggling, in fact, it’s the opposite.

It shows that you are prioritizing yourself and the relationship which is essential for any successful relationship. 

Here are some reasons why:

You need to keep your identity.

It can be very easy to forget your interests and the things you enjoyed before you got into a relationship but keeping up the things that bring you joy is incredibly important.

It keeps you in touch with who you are, so make sure you stay on top of it. Doing things you love contributes to an overall feeling of happiness and fulfilment. 

Friends doing yoga
Spending time with a friend or doing a hobby you enjoy is a form of self-care.

It helps give them time to themselves too.

Spending all of your time together can be overwhelming for you but also for your partner too. While spending time doing the things you love, it also encourages them to spend time doing things they love too.

To find happiness, it can’t depend on just one person to do that for you. It puts a lot of pressure on your partner and an unachievable expectation. Happiness for you both has to come from external influences as well as each other. 

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Ironically, spending time away from each other will actually make your relationship stronger. Spending time with a friend or doing a hobby you enjoy is a form of self-care.

Prioritising your self-care will, in turn, make you a better partner. If you are feeling confident and fulfilled as an individual this will show within your relationship too.

Spending time away from each other will have you looking forward to seeing each other again, contributing to keeping that excitement in your relationship too. 

Laura Doyle

Mum of four, Gentle parent living on coffee and trying always to stay positive and motivate in the midst of the madness.

Read more by Laura
{{ post.excerpt }}
{{ post.content.formatted }}

What is Family Friendly HQ?

Family Friendly HQ is Ireland’s trusted parenting community, dedicated to mums and dads, and families of all shapes and sizes.

Read more about us