No More Nappies? Top Toilet Training Tips From A Mum Of Four

I could write a book on potty training, honestly, I could. I've bought a ridiculous amount of unnecessary disposable training pants, all the books, watched all the youtube clips with them, and we had three plastic potties in this house at one point.

I could write a book on potty training, honestly, I could. I've bought a ridiculous amount of unnecessary disposable training pants, all the books, watched all the youtube clips with them, and we had three plastic potties in this house at one point. One even had a flusher, in fairness, it was passed on by a family member but still.

The more kids I toilet train the realisation of how much is marketed at parents when it comes to teaching children to use the toilet is ridiculous. Here are my top tips when it comes to toilet training, I'm currently on a toddler lead approach with baby #4 and so relaxed about it. It's not a race.  

Follow Their Lead

Every child is different, they are all unique in their own little way. Some kids may take longer to show an interest in toilet training and that's okay. Unless you need your child using the toilet for creche or the likes try to wait until they show you signs of readiness.

How Will I Know They Are Ready?


There are loads of different common readiness signs to look out for. The #1 sign is pulling at a wet or dirty nappy. It's uncomfortable, they know they are wet and they don't like it. Other signs include hiding to pee or poop, wakening up dry from a nap and telling you they need to go or have just gone the toilet.

What do I need?


Nothing really. Swap nappies for pants, that's really all you need. There is no need to be faffing about with fancy wipes, special hand wash or plastic potties. Use what you have already - tissue paper, your usual antibacterial hand soap and the toilet. It's one thing training a child to use a potty but then you have to teach them to use a toilet - so cut out the potty and just start with the toilet. You can get toilet seat adjustments for little bums so they don't fall in. My MIL in has one and all the grandchildren love it.  

What Age Is The Right Age?


There is no magic number. One of my kids trained at 2.5 then relapsed for just over of a year. Another didn't show signs of interest until he was 3 and then you have my then one-year-old who self-trained before she was two. I currently have a just turned two-year-old who is showing signs of readiness but we're in no rush. I give her lots of nappy free time and she uses the toilet a couple of times a day. I believe she will be fully trained day and night by the end of the summer due to my relaxed approach.   

Reward Their Successes Praise

This is so important, our little people are learning a new skill and if they are rocking it, it needs to be rewarded. Tell them how awesome they are doing, be eccentric, clap and cheer them on. You can reward your child verbally, with a sticker or maybe a small treat (treats can be healthy too!). 

It's Okay To Quit


If your child is struggling with the idea of toilet training maybe they are just not ready. It's okay to quit and leave it for a few weeks or even months and try again.   And remember, accidents will happen - never get cross. Mistakes are how we learn.  

Kellie Kearney

Kellie Kearney is a Dublin mammy of five kids aged newborn right up to nine. She loves coffee, cloth nappies, travel and sharing her every day true to life family moments on Instagram.

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