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The Benefits Of A Close Age Gap Between Siblings

The Benefits Of A Close Age Gap Between Siblings

The Benefits Of A Close Age Gap Between Siblings

As a mum of four, I know better than most what having different age gaps can feel like within a family
 
Between my first and second there are 5 years. Between my second and third there are 17 months and between the third and fourth there are 18 months.
 
I feel like I am both sides of the coin with a big (ish) age gap and also having three babies in 4 years!

You will do everything at once
For some this may be a negative but for us it was the opposite. When our first started school his sister was born. We felt like we had just had our first again. Sleepless nights, baby equipment everywhere and nappies! With the younger three, we were bang in the middle of that phase each time. We felt like we got all our nappies and sleepless nights done in one go, even though we had three babies in three years.
 
 
 
No sibling rivalry
At least that is the hope! Sibling rivalry generally comes about as a result of kids comparing themselves to their siblings. If an older sibling has more freedom or is allowed to stay up that hour later, it can cause some feelings of injustice and some resentment for the older sibling. Within a smaller age gap the rules are generally the same. Bedtimes, rules, screen times etc.
 
The relationship
Again, another hope is the relationship will be strong and bud at a young age. When there is a tighter age gap, siblings tend to be more of accomplices rather than competitors. Whether it is getting in trouble or even going to special occasions, with a smaller age gap the little ones are in it together. For life.
 
Older kids will become more independent
When kids have younger siblings they see themselves as the ‘grown up’ of the piece. When you have a new-born when their sibling is still young themselves it certainly encourages them to become more independent. In between helping you around the house and everything that comes with being a big brother or sister, they’re naturally encouraged to become more independent and to feel a sense of responsibility when it comes to helping with their younger sibling.
 
The Entertainment Factor
When you are trying to get dinner on, get a wash on the line or make lunches for the next day, sometimes the only way you can get it all done is to find some sort of entertainment for your little one. And, usually this involves screen time, leading to some inevitable mum guilt. However, parents with children that are close in age find that they will entertain one another, which means you can step away for a moment.
 
 
 
Laura Doyle, mum of 4. Kyle 9, Noa Belle 4, Briar 2 and Milla 12 months. Breastfeeder, co-sleeper, coffee drinker. Staying positive and inspired by the chaos of it all. Follow her on Instagram.